I was pulled into this article by its clickbait title. Boy, was I fooled by your exceptional writing and years of experience dealing with unnecessary looks, ugly comments, and hateful behaviors by others. The kindness of offering soap to this young person spoke volumes. I, too, wondered why she had to ask if it was ok to enter the bathroom. I hope you told her she should walk right into her safe place unannounced and confident. Your clothing line must shine as bold and beautiful as your writing. Thank you.